Go forth and have an affair to remember. I’m not advocating promiscuity in your relationships, but rather in your creativity and your ideas. The good thing is that ideas don’t have feelings that can be hurt, or self esteems that can be crushed. Your mixing it up a bit with your ideas is not going to make you a bad person, just a more creative one.
In a few more days we will be at the vernal equinox. Spring is here, and in this age of global warming, you might as well take advantage of the weather to have a summer fling a little early. A spring fling with a new idea is the perfect way to kick start your creativity and be happier in the process.
Why is it then that so few of us take this plunge into a whirlwind romance? There are usually three reasons we get stuck in a rut when it comes to ideas:
1] Too few ideas
If you haven’t yet perfected your own method of generating new ideas at will, it is likely you are a bit uptight about the few ideas you have. Possessiveness is a negative emotion, as much with ideas as with people, and sometimes you have to let go. To get more comfortable, discover some new ways to brainstorm and generate ideas. Once you realise there are more fish in the sea, perhaps you will loosen up a little and take the odd chance on a casual fling.
2] Too many ideas
You could have the opposite problem. You’re spoilt for choice and so you’re never quite sure which of the thousands of ideas to choose to select wallpaper with, and which to consider as temporary distraction to have a little fun with. I have news for you, there is no magic bolt from the sky which will make these decisions for you. If you have too much to deal with, choose one promising idea at random and pursue it like a lovestruck teenager. Maybe it is a short affair, a minor infatuation, but at least you will enjoy the time you have together and maybe you’ll even be friends for life. We can all use all the friends we can get.
3] Too serious about ideas
The most common reason for freezing up with your ideas is that you are too embroiled in them. You think too much and take every idea too seriously. Just barely have you laid eyes on a vaguely pretty face of a new concept, and you’ve already started planning your future together, and how you’ll spend your long weekends, and who’ll take out the trash. All this before you’ve found out if the object of you attentions is worth your attention in the first place. To take your ideas too seriously prematurely is as deadly as being frivolous about them once they develop. You have to realise that every idea you come across is not your soul mate, and you must also realise that engaging these temporary distractions helps you grow and gives you happiness that is as important in the long run as that big idea you’re still waiting for over the horizon.
All these possible scenarios lead you to be overly attached to your ideas and that blocks everything. You could be out there in the golden spring Sun courting a beauty and accepting that it’s not meant to last, and instead you are sitting in here worrying over who will take care of whom when you get old.
Get over it. Pick an idea and run with it. A quick and breezy romance is often just what the doctor ordered for the creative type. Something that doesn’t require too much thought or planning, or guessing and second guessing. Something that is fun while it lasts and enriches your experiences for ever more. At worst it teaches you a few valuable lessons, but you can’t abstain from these in fear of the future if you hope to continue being creative.
Spring flings and quickly executed ideas are good for you, like a stint of quick exercise, or an unexpected surprise. Indulge in these without guilt because your spring flings with ideas will gift you with spontaneity, courage, and self confidence, all of which will be invaluable when you do want to tackle a serious idea which you would like to spend the rest of your life with.
You know that little hottie you’ve been flirting with or eyeing cautiously from afar? Take them out for a spin. Take a chance, make your move in good faith and with good humour. Delay too much and some other creative devil will swoop in while you’re blushing and dilly-dallying and sweep them off their feet. You would have missed an opportunity, an experience, and things will never be exactly the same again. Times change. At best you’ll be invited to their whirlwind wedding and enjoy some free food. At worst you’ll be stuck with baby sitting their pesky kids forever. Doesn’t a casual fling sound like more fun?